So its another year and another round of resolutions for a lot of people. A time to make that giant, year long life goal that's so big and poorly defined that its almost impossible to ever actually stick to it. So this year, as last year, I'm not doing a 'New Years Resolution'.
I'm doing something better.I'm
doing new months
The idea behind a new years resolution is appealing, a fresh start to try and build a better you. But it usually fails when some one has a nebulous concept, like 'get fit', or something unreasonably grandiose, like 'start my own business'. Often, people don't have steps to follow, small goals to meet along the way. After all, since a WHOLE year demands something worthy
of a whole year, people often forget about the small stuff.
But what if you make a monthly
resolution, a smaller amount of time that allows for a smaller goal? Finish a building project, learn a new thing, save up the money for an item. Something reasonable for the span of a month, something you can figure out how to achieve. And you make a new one every month. At the end of the year, instead of one or two abandoned or half done resolutions, you have up to twelve
smaller resolutions done...and since its monthly, if you fall down or quit out on one of them, you can jump right back on the wagon a heck of a lot sooner than 'next year'.
Personally, I do small self improvement habits. Research shows that it takes about thirty days to start to form a new habit, so each month its something new, with a daily goal to meet. Things such as 'drink more water' with a daily goal of a particular vessel, 'keep the house cleaner' with a daily goal of ten minutes cleaning, or 'get better at ___' with a daily goal of a half hour of practice. All of those are one's I've used.
And to make it fun and rewarding, since I still have the mind of a child, I get myself a calendar, write my 'daily goal' on each day, and then buy stickers. Each day I succeed in doing my goal, I get a sticker on that calendar square. It works both as a fun little motivation, and a way of easily telling at a glance how well you're doing that month. Its not very 'grown up', but I think a lot of things 'grown ups' say they want to do fall flat because they're too boring, so if stickers and brightly coloured pens can help me improve myself and meet my goals, I'm not gonna turn my nose up at a winning strategy.
For anyone interested, this month I'm starting out with a bang, by cementing THREE new habits I started forming randomly throughout December...A half hour of exercise, a completed drawing, and cleaning and sweeping my room. All that, every day, no buts!I'd love to hear from anyone who might try this idea out themselves in the comments! Lemme know what goals you decide on, and we can support each other in our en devours!
It's always easier to do something when you do it with friends^^.